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2012: Desperately seeking balance

January 3rd, 2012

Nadine Kam photo
Posting photos of animals and hay bales, below, took more time in 2011 than perhaps necessary.

On New Year’s Eve, I received a message from MauiShopGirl blogger Tania Ginoza, regarding sharing my New Year’s resolutions.

At that point, I hadn’t given it much thought beyond not making any resolutions. First, I had the flu going into the new year, and when you’re sick, the future is last thing on your mind. There’s only the present miserable state.

Second, last new year I was caught up in the rush of the Post A Day movement, joining other bloggers around the world in pledging to post daily. “How hard could it be?” I thought at the time. I was already posting four to five times a week. What’s another couple of posts?

Well, my daily posts lasted about a month. Those two last posts, I found, were the difference between what one of my bosses calls “therapy,” and stress-inducing obsession. And when it comes to a choice between mental health and insanity, the choice is easy.

Hay bales in Lakeville, CT, July 2010.

I am entering my fifth year of blogging (August 2007), and fifth year on Twitter (May 2007). I take responsibility for turning a whole lot of people on to Twitter over a couple of evangelical years, but in the middle of last year, I cut back on my interactions. While on vacation in New York, then in nothing-going-on Lakeville, CT, I finally figured out how much time I was putting into social networking. With all the time in the world, and nothing going on around me, it was taking four hours a day to simply upload a handful of photos and manage conversations on Twitter, Facebook and Foodspotting. It’s a lot of time when you add in regular work hours and even though much of it is fun, it adds a layer of stress when you start feeling it’s something you must do at any cost.

I’d already cut back my blogging hours the previous year. When I started, it wasn’t unusual to stay up til 3 in the morning blogging and editing video. For us much as we talk about sustainability, those kinds of hours are not sustainable over time.

Now, six months after I cut back, I’m seeing new year stories along the lines of Pico Iyer’s “The Joy of Quiet,” extolling the joys of or desire to escape the information stream. I think that escape is impossible for anyone who wants to have any kind of career or relevance in the future. That information stream is as much a part of our culture as radio was in the 1930s to ’50s, and television from the 1950s through ’80s. But, I believe it’s possible to occupy physical and online worlds in a way that allows one to be human, not machine. And, so I arrived at  my personal buzz word for 2012, which is “balance.”

If it ever comes down to a choice, I’ve always known that I prefer to live life on a human scale rather than the scattershot of bits and bytes.

The opposite of attraction gains attention

November 10th, 2011

Victoria’s Secret
Victoria’s Secret Angel Candice Swanepoel dressed for the fashion show to air on CBS Nov. 29.

Wondering if are there any men out there who think the Victoria’s Secret fashion show is remotely sexy?

This year’s show takes place Nov. 29, but the VS website shows the angels being fitted in their costumes. You can check out more looks here.

My seatmate here in the office said if he saw any of these women walk into a bar dressed liked this, he’d take off running.

The company still gets a lot of attention for staging the fashion shows, though, and I suppose women who shop at VS see past the wings and gaudiness to the skimpy things beneath the costumes. Even so, I still wonder if some of the things women think men find sexy actually make them want to laugh out loud.

Adriana Lima looking rather crow- or raven-like.

Lindsey Ellingson in Pink.